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WHO IS DEB?

Well … you know, I ”am” Deb and I don’t think even I know the answer to that question.

This page has been a long time coming, because I have given this quite a lot of thought … usually those first few minutes each morning I wake up contemplating the answer, and the most accurate response to that question that I’ve been able to come up with is …

*****ALWAYS EVOLVING*****

I have been educated, but I am not my education.

I have held leadership positions and been self employed for most of my life, but I am not my career.

I have received academic, sporting, business and leadership awards, but I am not my achievements.

I grew up poor and now am an excellent money manager, but I am not my wealth.

I have travelled the world, but I am not my adventures.

I have a long lasting *happy* marriage with the man of my dreams, but I am not my relationships.

I used to be skinny and now I am a little overweight, but I am not my body.

I don’t have any children, but I am not my infertility.

I have been spiritual my whole life, but I am not religious.

I am not my past, although have obviously been influenced by past experiences.

I am not my future, although I have no doubt my dreams will become reality.

So there you have it … who I AM and who I AM NOT … in a nutshell.

Right now I am living my Dream Lifestyle!  Really!

Now don’t read into that … flashy cars and fast cash.  Read into that …. FREEDOM in all aspects of my life.  That’s why I was prepared to give up a $300K+ contract to Turn my Dream Lifestyle into my Online Business which allows me to conduct business in luxury locations, hang out with people I love, learning and teaching topics I am passionate about, that helps others fulfill their dreams and love life from a deeper level - all tax deductible!  I live life from the perspective of being FREE to

***   BE who I want to be,

***   DO what I want to do,

***   HAVE what I want to have,

***   WHEN I want to and

***   WITH whomever I want to.

I never see myself as stuck or limited or confined.  I come from a place of purpose and passion, rather than fear and obligation.  I come from a place of abundance, rather than scarcity, although I understand the **very** limited resources I experienced growing up as a child is what has brought me to appreciate the lifestyle I get to enjoy today.  The malnutrition has definitely brought me to appreciate that extra bowl of dessert a time or two as well – not to mention the choccies. 

I embrace the contrast that life has to offer (try not to push against in the moment … not always successfully, but I try to allow that anyway) and always seek to focus on the positive aspects of whatever the current situation is.  I have an optimistic, positive view of all people.  I see the greatness of us all.  I see the connectedness of us all.  Don’t worry … I’m human … sometimes, I see the crap as well, and that helps me appreciate the diversity and evolution and expansion of this life experience.    lol

I think a lot of that comes from how I process information.  During my university years, I attended special classes for lamanite (indian) students.  Because of the conceptual basis of their cultural teachings, anyone who attended those classes participated in the Hermann Brain Dominance Profile.  This Profile indicates how you process information.

Most people have a dominant quadrant of the brain when it comes to processing information.  For example, most accountants are analytical and that quadrant of the brain is more dominant.  Most artists are creative and that quadrant of the brain is more dominant for them.

My profile revealed  that I am just as analytical as I am creative as I am emotional as I am pragmatic. (I chose the colourful header at the top of my blog for this very reason – I am all colours of the rainbow.)  I think this is why I am a very understanding and forgiving person.  I can always see everyone’s point of view and different perspectives of the same situation.  And so I usually ask a lot of questions as well.  I am almost compelled to clarify **exactly** the meaning that is intended because I can see the potential for what has been communicated to be misinterpreted.

Because of that understanding and awareness, I am a very caring person who wants each person to understand the possibilities of life, the joy of life, the creativity of living life on your own terms.  I suppose my only real agenda in life is to help others realise that they can consciously create the life they really want, their “Dream Lifestyle.”

I make no judgment about what that choice is.   I make observations, of course, but I don’t believe there is a right or a wrong.  Although I use those two words in my vocabulary, I see them as labels that really mean, “this is what works for me, according to my beliefs.”  I am very accepting of people’s choices.

As far as MY beliefs go, I believe in the Law of Attraction.  Some call this **force** … God or energy or Ala or Buddha or kharma.  As a result, I focus on the positive in every aspect of my life.  I focus on what I want.  At the same time, I try not to push against what I don’t want when it is in my experience.  In fact, I am grateful for contrast.  I see each and every contrasting experience as an opportunity for me to say “Thanks for sharing.  Now I know more clearly what I do want, I’ll just turn my attention in that direction.”  Simple!

I believe you get what you focus on.

I believe you have a choice.  It’s not your circumstances that determine your experience, it’s how you FEEL about your circumstances that makes all the difference.  And your feelings are influenced by what aspect of your experience you are choosing to focus on.  You can choose to focus on the negative aspects and feel bad.  Or you can choose to focus on the positive aspects and feel good.  All up to you.   Me? …  I choose to focus on the positive.

Ooooohhhhh, now that was good! 

That whole concept leap frogs into my very “solution-based” thinking.  I am a win/win kinda gal who can see an amicable, fair, solution to most situations and always seeks to achieve that.   I am flexible and easy going.  I am very even tempered and deal with differences maturely.

I take full responsibility for the part I play in any situation.  However, I do not accept responsibility for other people’s choices and make no apology about my choice to hold them accountable.  I believe when you remove the consequence of a choice, you do someone a huge disservice.  Sometimes, others perceive this quality negatively, (especially those who are being held accountable … surprise! surprise!) and I am ok with that, because I know deep down it is the exact opposite.

I have a naturally outgoing and bubbly personality.  I am energized by a group or team environment.  I am a natural uplifter, offering encouragement and self empowerment.  I do my best to ensure everyone has fun and feels a connection and is not left out.  On the other hand, I most enjoy intimate dinners over pubs and parties, real down to earth discussions over superficial chit chat.  I am fairly upfront and real.  I tend to just say it how it is, although am considerate of HOW I say it.  I’m not into hype and BS, although it definitely shows when I am passionate about something.

I am afraid I choose not to tolerate those that bask in misery, negativity, or victim-mode mentality, especially if they are not prepared to shift their focus to change whatever it is they’re complaining about.  I am not a complainer and I prefer not to be around that type of person.  I accept them and have no problems with where they’re at and the choices they are making, I just don’t want to be around that energy, vibration, spirit – whatever you want to call it.  Because bottom line is .. they’re focussing on the negative aspects and that just doesn’t feel comfortable to me.

I have some defining moments in my life, stories, that I will share under separate posts that will help you understand the person that I am through my actions.  They’re a lot more fun to read than this.  They are motivating and inspiring.  When I look back, I’ve had quite a colourful life, actually! 

This all might seem a bit serious, but I am actually quite light about life.  I’m not into drama AT ALL and pretty much go with the flow.  You know … cry a river, build a bridge, get over it!  On the other hand, this post has been one of introspection and reflection and touched on the core of who I really see myself as a person.  Been an interesting exercise.

Hope you enjoyed getting to know me a bit better!