How The Laws of Attraction Fit the BE DO HAVE Philosophy
Popularized in The Secret movie and book, the concept of “Be Do Have” has created a great deal of controversy. There are those that believe, those that don’t and those that want to believe but can’t figure out how to apply it in their lives. Whichever group you fall into, I say … Great!
Turning people’s attention toward the possibilities has given each of us as individuals the opportunity to assess our beliefs. In the process, you decide. Either way, it brings you to YOUR truth and that’s all that matters. The ultimate outcome is you live your life more consciously and that is the only agenda I have. That is my mission.
My mission is to help people like YOU live consciously. Decide how to live life, realize who you really are and the ability, no the *power* you have to create a lifestyle you want, rather than be a victim to the external circumstances that surround you. Just be open enough to consider for a moment the possibility that you are not a victim to your circumstances.
Every Moment Is A New Moment So The Past Does Not Equal The Future
For years people have commonly assumed, thought, and been culturally programmed to believe that
- IF they HAVE what they want (car, house, boat),
- they will be able to DO what they want (play with their friends),
- only then will they BE what they want (happy).
Hence, the underlying assumption that external factors dictate or *cause* internal responses. In other words, my happiness *depends* on what is happening in my life on the outside.
Well following that logic will only cause misery and heartache and unhappiness, because you cannot control every-thing and every-one in your environment. Nor is it fathomable to think you can or have a right to dictate what another chooses to create in their life. You are setting yourself up for failure right from the start.
In essence, the basic tenets of the BE DO HAVE philosophy is that the order is actually reversed from what people previously believed for years. Try this on for size …
- First, you allow yourself to BE in a state of mind (happy, content, without inner conflict of intention)
- which will inspire you to DO whatever it takes (work hard, start an online business, buy property, visit an orphanage)
- to attract what you really want to HAVE in your life (financial security, world peace, a rewarding relationship, help others).
And that pertains to all areas of your life, not just financial. Hence, the underlying assumption that the only thing you *can* control is YOU, and more specifically, what about you? … your thoughts. You can only control what you choose to focus on. And yes, you do have a choice. Let’s explore that a bit further, shall we.
Psychology – Perception is Selective
Many theories in psychology academia concur that perception is selective. Well, who cares what they say … what’s your experience? Don’t give up your power to others. Go within. Trust yourself. Look to your own experience, your own feelings. So, let’s see … in your environment right now, there is (let’s just say) 1 million pieces of information and for whatever reason, you choose 100 of them to give your attention.
For example, what does the tip of your toe feel like right now? Can you feel it? Now that “feeling” was a piece of information that was in your environment, being processed, before I drew your attention to it, but it wasn’t until I mentioned it, that you became *aware* of it. It wasn’t until you focussed on it, that you became *conscious* of it.
I remember, when we bought a new red Mitsubishi I started seeing them everywhere and yet I had never noticed them before. Well, do you think everyone went out and bought one the same day I did? No. That piece of information in my environment became more relevant to me personally and so I noticed that. See what I mean? Focus influences perception.
Well, given that you actually have a choice, you have two options: You can choose to focus on the positive aspects of a particular subject or you can choose to focus on the negative aspects. They are both there – no denying. One is no more real than another. It always astounds me that people say “I’m a realist” when they are really justifying their choice to focus on the negative. The fact of the matter is … one is no more *real* than the other, because nothing is really real; it’s all relative. Because the way you see something may be different from how I see it. You may see something as negative and I may see it as positive. So what is real? We won’t go there right now. We’d never come back.
The point is .. you have a choice of what to focus on in your mind. You can direct your thoughts. It takes discipline to constantly focus on the positive aspects, that’s true, but the effort is worth it because of the influence it has on your vibration – the rate at which energy vibrates. Now don’t be scared off by that term. It’s not heeby jeeby; it’s actually quite logical and firmly based in the scientific realm of quantum physics. Stay with me here and let me explain.
Science – Energy Vibrates Predictably
We all know that energy is the building blocks of the universe, right? We are all energy. Everything is energy. Every single atom, molecule, quark … (you know all those funny named balls you memorized for the science exam) is made up of energy vibrating at different speeds. Well, now scientific studies are confirming theories regarding the influence of our thoughts on the energy within us and also around us. Turns out, what you focus on in your thoughts has an influence on how fast those molecules vibrate, it has an influence on the energy you emit into the universe.
Now the ramifications of chasing down that rabbit hole are outside the scope of this article, but it is an incredibly interesting study to find out how the world works. I’ll add some links later that go into this subject further.
In fact, more than interesting, a thorough understanding would empower you to consciously control your energy vibration and hence attract or create a life that you want. Mmmmm??? Now that’s starting to sound an awful lot like thoughts attracting results to me. Go figure.
Hence, the evolution of our universal beliefs about HOW the world works. Given that one theory sets you up for failure and the other sets you up for happiness, or at least the positive side of the scale, it seems logical to choose to follow the Be Do Have Model of Thought. In studying and applying this model, you will come to understand how The Secret of How to Apply the Law of Attraction so you can create a life that you want – maybe even a Dream Lifestyle.
You will be absolutely amazed at the results in your life.
Deb, great post. Love the last line. It’s so true and you gave a ton of great insight. One of my big things is that every morning when we wake up we have a choice. To have a good day or a bad day. Always choose the positive.
Thanks for your words of wisdom,.
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LIke always Deb, great post!
Love how you’re spreading such a valuable message that everyone needs to know if they wanna live their lives to it’s fullest potential, and manifest their ideal lifestyle. And on top of that, not asking for anything in return.
Thanks for taking the time to write this post up, and help people with their life. I’m a big fan, and I can’t wait to read your future posts!
Keep em coming Deb! Keep em coming!
~Omar
I thought I had already commented here, but I don’t see it, so I’m back. Great post and definitely the proper mindset to attain and have! Right on Deb! Keep ‘em flowing.
“know the *power* you have to create a lifestyle you want, rather than be a victim to the external circumstances that surround you”-
Once you realize this your future has endless potential.
I absolutely love this post- Look forward to more from you Deb.
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Hey Debbie …
Thanks so much for commenting on my post. I appreciate your additional remarks. My only response to your comment would be … YOU are the one who labels an event during your day as BAD or GOOD. it IS what it IS. the meaning you attach, that is influenced by your perception.
i’ve got a story i heard ages ago. i’ll see if i can dig it up and post it here to add to this thread.
Once again, thanks
deb
Hey Omar
Glad you like it. I’ll definitely do my best to keep you coming back for more.
Hi Scott
I thought you had too … maybe it was another post.
Either way, glad you like it. If you have any distinctions or clarifications about any concepts I have mentioned, feel free to raise them.
Hey Kelly
I felt your conviction with the *absolutely* in there.
Feedback is always welcome.
Thanks for yours
deb
Thank you Deb for such a great message.
I have to tell you that for years I was that person of Have, Do, Be. Life was a struggle for sure.
That fact that we are responsible for our thoughts is new to so many people who come from a place of not taking responsibility for the life or their circumstances.
You put it best when you said, “you have a choice of what to focus on in your mind. You can direct your thoughts. It takes discipline to constantly focus on the positive aspects…”
You have a choice so, make it a better than terrific day!
Terry
PS I would love to re-post this content on my blog. Let me know if you are open to that.
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Deb…very well done! Well written and to the point. Great thoughts! People’s lives could take a sharp turn for the better if they simply understood some of these basic points. Thank you!
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Great post! I love be, do, have! Over the past 2 yard I’ve been in the BE stage, living a life of luxury with a man and traveling the country. Now, it’s time for me to DO… Setting up my online marketing stuff and working… It’s INSPIRED work now b/c I was in the be for so long, and soon I will HAVE!
Thanks and keep it coming!
Sue Vittner
http://suevittner@yahoo.com
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Hey Terry
Appreciate your comments. Of course I am open to you re-posting my message as I think it has the potential to benefit so many people and the more these life lesson tips get out there, the better.
Would appreciate if you would use different keyword tags, that’s all.
Thanks for getting the message out there, Terry, and YES make it a great day!
Deb
Hey Bruce
You are spot on big buddy. When you understand these basic points about HOW to live life, HOW to apply the law of attraction, HOW to come from a BE DO HAVE philosophy, it is absolutely downright fantasmagorically AMAZING how much your life changes.
Happiness is just around the corner, despite whatever circumstances. I know it. I’ve lived it.
Appreciate your feedback
deb
Hi Sue
I can tell we’re two little kindred spirits. I saw the title of your latest post and will go check it out once I’ve finished here.
Thanks for your comments. Appreciate this whole community helping the greater “good” (I use that term loosely, because “good” is just a label … and I want to acknowledge and make the distinction for those reading that your perception of “good” could be very different to mine.)
Have a great day!
deb
Awesome post! I’m so glad twitter brought us together!
When I am in my BEingness my life is flowing! It is SO much easier and more fun than ’striving’. It’s funny, I just got on twitter a week or so ago and I’m having a blast finding like minded people and creating relationships. With talking and listening. That was my beingness going in and that is what I am receiving.
I have created so many things easily though BEINGNESS. God is there all the time offering us opportunities. When I tune into ME I find my focus can fully be on other people then and I can see and receive all around me. Thanks for building this playground!
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Hi Deb, it’s true, universals laws, laws of attraction, the law of BeDoHave, etc, are difficult to grasp. I know why. It’s because Down Under everything is reversed. It has people confused and disoriented. Just look at me!
Down Under aside
in regards to BeDoHave, while your great post makes perfect sense, of course, it’s also true that a moron with a tendency for massive action (DO) will be more successful than a smarty-pants with a tendency for BE-ing. In the same way as someone who eats junk food with a great attitude will likely live a healthier and longer life than someone who eats carefully selected health food with a snobbish attitude. My BeDOHave experience – seemingly shared with others in the comments section – is one of true discovery and weight lifted off my shoulders. Once you get the BeDoHave, you’ll never want to go back to HaveDoBe.
Keep giving us those great posts of yours!
Beat
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Hey Beat
REALLY appreciate the additional remarks you have made regarding my post that contribute to the value I am able to provide to the whole internet community.
I would just add …. the moron taking massive action will get results, but they will be short lived because he has actually not lined up with the receiving of it. It’s what is commonly referred to as “self sabotage” in psychology circles.
Aaaaahhh, don’t you just love the introspection and growth that life and the creative process of living affords us all. Now, to help the world be conscious of the role they play. That is my quest! (without any agenda as to what they decide once they are conscious)
Great comment. Thanks again.
Deb
What’s funny about the law of attraction at least in my experience is. I get so focused on it and it doesn’t work right away but like a month later something great happens. Then of course I get over confident and flake back over to the negitive side. So much so that I go back to studying the law of attraction again.
Deb any advice on have to keep this law in the front of your mind and compound my success?
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Great post Debbie!
I truly believe that our success lies in our decision to be successful (or not). Like Debbie Wood says above, we have a choice. I choose the side of success! You obviously have made that decision a long time ago Deb.
Keep up the great posts!
Glenn
I’ve always believed in the law of attraction and living consciously. The Secret and What the Bleep Do We Know were both great movies to exemplify that. May we always try to live like we’re attracting what we want every day!
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This was a great article. I especially love what you said about people using the phrase, “I’m a realist.” I was the world’s biggest “realist” for longer than I care to admit. If I couldn’t logically process something, it was ruled out. It’s so wonderful to now have an understanding of the Universe that let’s me dream as big as I want to. The days of rationalizing negative beliefs are long gone. Great job coaching your readers on a more enlightened way of thinking. Love and light to you.
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The Laws of Attraction are very logical and make perfect sense to me. Putting them into practice is so hard. I don’t know if I’m a cynical person or a negative person but I sure have a hard time staying positive. I’ve been working on it for a couple years but still struggling.
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You are right Tom.
We are always in a constant state of creating. That’s the deliciousness of it all. You never stop creating and so it’s a dynamic exciting expression of who you are “being” in the moment. Focus on the positive aspects of whatever the current NOW subject is and watch what happens.
Don’t push against what IS in the moment, just be ok with it by consciously looking for the positive aspects. They are ALWAYS there if we adjust our focus.
Keep up the GREAT work Tom
Deb